Sunday

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It has been two weeks since I returned to Florida. The day after I arrived in Florida, my brain wasn’t working properly, and I had no appetite. I only ate once a day for a week and lost 3 kg.

I was very sleepy on Friday and Saturday nights. I went to bed around 9 pm and woke up at 10 am. I had a good dream. I haven’t slept like this since last year. Last year I had jet lag for over two weeks after returning to Florida.

Since I was young, I have tried many ways to sleep well. I listen to classical music, meditate, exercise, use aroma candles and pillow mists, etc. Alcohol is like a sleeping pill. I can sleep right after drinking. But it is not healthy. Sleeping pills are even worse. I know because my grandma used to take them.

I left Japan a long time ago. I have been living abroad for about half of my life. I thought about my identity.

My mom clearly said to me, “You are not Japanese anymore!” To be honest, I was sad to hear that. I don’t know what she was thinking. Our relationship has always been like that. We always argued and hurt each other.

My dad and I have always been close. We have never argued. He is kind and respects me. My grandpa was also like that. Well, my grandma lived life at her own pace. I may be like her.

Now my dad has dementia. Sometimes he can’t do everything by himself. Several times my mom said hurtful things to him. I took his side and argued with her instead.

I have tried to do my best. In reality, it is very difficult to solve family problems. I wonder how many more years this kind of life will last.

 

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9 responses to “Sunday”

  1. vermavkv Avatar

    Very heartfelt story. But time heals. I am sorry for your father who is suffering from dementia.stay blessed.

    1. LILI FLORIDA Avatar

      Thank you. I plan to see my dad this year again. I want to have a good time with him. 🙂

  2. Michael Williams Avatar

    :/ that sounds like something really tough to deal with. sorry Lili-san. i hope those kinds of arguments will stop so you can take care of your parents in peace. Mike

    1. LILI FLORIDA Avatar

      Thank you. The relationship with my mom has always been like that. Also, my dad has dementia now. He sometimes talks to me about the past. I pretend to be okay with it, but honestly, I sometimes blame myself…😔

  3. daisy Avatar

    Life pulls us in many directions, across borders and between generations. Even when things feel heavy, your care shines through in your memories, your worries, and your hope. Maybe that’s what home really is: the love we continue to carry, even when it’s complicated.
    Have a good day!

    1. LILI FLORIDA Avatar

      Thank you, Daisy! I feel better now.🥰

      1. daisy Avatar

        😊😊

  4. Geoffrey Chen Avatar

    Love is the best medicine.

    1. LILI FLORIDA Avatar

      YES! 😉

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