A few months ago, I talked to an older man (in his 60s). I asked him, “Did you get angry this week?” He said, “No, when I was young, I often got angry at work. But I am older. I accept everything.”
Well, I always have a peaceful mind. Even when I was young, I usually didn’t complain to friends and coworkers. I often argued with my mom because she repeatedly said the same things that I didn’t want to listen to. I thought that I should respect my mom. But her opinion was unreasonable and like a complaint to me. She probably wasn’t satisfied with her life.
Later, my aunt advised her to go to therapy. I don’t know about her past in detail, but she has some trauma. Her current condition is better, but she also has hearing impairment, communication difficulties, and panic disorder.
I used to blame myself because I thought I was partly responsible for her mental instability. But blaming myself didn’t solve anything.
When I went to Hawaii in November, one tourist in the same group said to my mom, “Your daughter is doing well. Why do you act like that?”
My mom said to her in front of me, “My daughter has always ignored my opinion. One day, she abandoned me to be with the man she loves.”
After a moment, the tourist said to my mom, “I am also a mom of two daughters. Did you enjoy a trip with your daughter, right? You should tell your daughter, Thank you. She would be happy to hear it.”
Surprisingly, my mom said to me, “Thank you.” And she apologized for what she said to me in the past.
Unfortunately, we can’t go back to the past. But we can start where we are and change the ending.
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