I am an open-minded person, so I usually don’t have negative feelings.
For example, if someone disagrees with my opinion, I ask first why. I have been in the U.S. for a long time, so I say “no” to someone’s opinion as well.
When I feel sad, like losing something, I stay with my cats.
I think listening to music is also a good way.
When I want to refresh my feelings, I go to the arcade and play racing games. ๐
I try to forget bad memories.
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17 responses to “What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?”
I’m a little troubled by when you said you say no to someone’s OPINION. An opinion is an emotion. When someone says they like cats or don’t like cats You can say NO. Because it will still remain. When someone says do something, you can say no, but not to an opinion. If not what you meant can you explain please?
Hi, thank you for your comment. ๐
Yes, like you said, opinion is emotion. But also, personal opinion is based on fact.
I think you are around my daughter’s age. So, I write from a mother’s perspective.
I was born and raised in Japan (my first language is Japanese). In Japan, many people don’t say “no”. Because saying “no” is considered bad manners (rude). Coming to America, what I learned first was saying “no.” Because if I didn’t express my opinion, other people would not understand what I was thinking.
I finished school in America. In college and graduate school, I had discussion time a lot. To be honest, each discussion time was challenging for me. The topic was not simple.
For example, degree or experience, which is more important? The answer is not only yes or no. Both are important. Some classmates said that education is more important. But I disagreed and said experience is more important. Because some jobs don’t require degrees. As one of the examples, I shared my dad’s case (he didn’t go to high school, but he became a sushi chef and owned his restaurant). In this case, my opinion is based on the facts.
By the way, when my husband asks me to do something, sometimes I say yes, and sometimes no. In this case, it is an order rather than a personal opinion. If he added, “please,” I would do it.
“No” is a powerful word, but the usage varies culturally.
In Bulgaria, no means yes. A nod of the head means “no” (“yes” in America), and a shake of the head means “yes” (“no” in America). ๐ โ https://youtu.be/drbhLnUwEnQ
Useful post.
Thank you. ๐
You are welcome.
I can resonate with staying with my cats when I feel sad. One time, my cat licks me after crying infront of him. I feel loved.
Oh, so sweet…. Cats are smart animals. They don’t speak, but they understand. ๐๐ฅฐ
Truly, Lili. I’m pretty sure of that.
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Silence
Yes! Silence is Golden (Speech is silver, silence is golden).True silence is valuable.๐
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